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Should coaches use directive strategies such as NLP?
2010-04-09

Welcome to our blog!

To get things going here's a  question I have been asked many times, so I thought it would be a really good topic to start of a discussion with.

What do you think?  

Should coaches use strategies such as NLP if it can help the client to get where they want to go or do you think coaching should always be non-directive?

Positive Impact Coaching
Limited
PO Box 73
N.E. Lincolnshire

Email: enquiries@positive-impact-coaching.com
Tel: +44 (0)1472 311 751

'Our coach's strengths was his ability to develop an easy and friendly rapport with those he works with. His experience enabled him to deal with even the most sensitive of situations whilst maintaining confidentiality and balanced view point. His personal insight and perception of peoples' strengths and weaknesses proved very successful, all this coupled with a sense of humour!' - D W Berridge, Site Manager, German Fine Chemical Business     'My coach is passionate about encouraging people to make the best life they can by overcoming their limiting beliefs. By encouraging me with my fledgling business my goals have all been exceeded, stretching me to get out of my comfort zone.' - Jan Rilatt, YouPlus Coaching, Laceby Lincolnshire     'I was really impressed with the knowledge and skills of our facilitator.' - Zaure Alzhanova, HR Manager BG Kazakhstan     'I found this course very useful as it will help me gain the knowledge of the mentoring process and rapport building. I would recommend it to all people who have to communicate with others.' - Zulfya Muzafarova, Development Project Co-ordinator KPO - BV Kazakhstan     'My coach used a light, reflective state to encourage visualisation of my problem, which was a fear of heights. He helped me to use my mental state more consciously through replaying my experiences and giving me strategies I could try myself. The sessions enabled me to feel strongly empowered with regard to my own state of mind. I have since been up the Leaning Tower Pisa which has always been one of my dreams.' - Sarah Gillingham - Director of Continuing Education & Training Franklin College     ''When work colleagues have entirely different perceptions of events and are critical of me in the future, I will always think about the phone calls (from my coach) and more importantly, how I was able to consider other people's views to get a different perspective on the events'.' - Martin* from Nottingham     ''My coaches overall life experience, high quality of listening, and strong empathy, make him a natural, trustworthy coach. I feel happy that the information I share or entrust with him is fully safe and confidential in his hands. He runs the sessions with a high degree of confidence and care while demonstrating strong understanding of the techniques used, yet always keeping me (the client) at the centre, this makes me feel his coaching is really for me and not just a process'. ' - Olga* from Coventry     ''For me 2005 was an exceptionally difficult year leaving me feeling very emotional and unstable. When I was offered coaching I immediately felt like a lifeline had been given to me. The coaching sessions were conducted in total privacy with my coach's personality and professionalism encouraging me I began to realise that a very personal experience in my childhood was affecting me now due to the emotional low I was feeling. After my first session I came out feeling an enormous sense of relief and experiencing the overwhelming feeling that this person could help me. During my next session my coach showed me a coaching technique which breaks down the emotion in the body. After carrying out the procedure just 3 times I felt as though a massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders, I would not hesitate to recommend coaching to anyone who needs help and support with both professional and/or personal anxieties'.' - Petra* from Yorkshire     '"Coaching for me is just having the right person who can and will listen, someone who will help you work through your own problems and allow you to test your own ideas in a safe environment. My coach does that and can also add some sensible direction and sense checking to my own ideas, when required." ' - Dave* from Newcastle     ''I have been working with my coach both on a one to one basis and as part of a team for almost 12 months now. During what seems a short space of time, I have gone from seeking a way out of the business to not only wanting to stay, but wanting to take on more responsibility and more importantly enjoying it! Why? In a word, 'Confidence'. but sorting it out I thought was easier said than done, but my coach had more techniques and tips he could draw upon than anyone could imagine or seemingly ever remember! Using techniques, to create a positive attitude which gradually overtakes the negative attitude until suddenly it all starts to become second nature and the FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) starts to fade and is replaced with a 'can do' attitude, that I'm sure rubs off onto fellow work colleagues until it almost starts to become infectious'. ' - Mike* from Knottingley West Yorkshire     ''At the age of 17, I was involved in a car accident which left me very anxious about car travel, especially on motorways. This anxiety has increased over the years and has become very problematic when faced with long car journeys. Through the coaching sessions I have had with my coach I have been able to re-programme the thought processes I had developed and associated with car travel and for the first time in 20 years am now a confident, relaxed traveller'. Many Thanks. ' - Martin* from Grimsby     ''My coach has helped me focus on resolving work based relationship issues and has helped me address specific areas of my personal development. He has explored with me my personal goals and targets, the timescales I have set myself, and the options/changes open to me. As a result I am more confident and aiming towards creating a reputation as being organised, thoughtful, and reliable'. ' - Tony* from Winsford Cheshire     'Albemarle Chemicals UK Ltd have used Positive Impact Coaching (PIC) since May 2007 and continues to use them as part of its management development program; primarily for 1:1 coaching support for members of the management team. I have found my relationship with my coach extremely beneficial in helping me achieve my goals both at work & home, my team have all developed as individual team members and collectively as a team we are much stronger. We have grown in confidence, in our abilities and our approach. I am also certain that the challenges we have faced & overcome over the last few years would not have been as successful without the coaching support we received. ' - Adrian Hayman, Site Manager, Albemarle Chemicals UK Ltd.     'Positive Impact Coaching has taken us from a group of disconnected individuals, struggling with exponential change, and reconnected us into the makings of a formidable team. We know what we have to do, now, and we we can make it.' - Provided via Survey Monkey      '“Having used business coaches in the past I thought I knew how effective they could be, but Terry (at Positive Impact Coaching) proved me wrong as his results have far surpassed those of my previous experiences”. Basic coaching has worked to provide me with a compass for development, identification of strengths and weaknesses and the next steps to business growth - all very important and useful elements - but Terry's additional [skill/service] of hypnotherapy at the end of each session gave me the tools to tackle any negativity I might felt at facing new situations and challenges. Put very simply this combined coaching/hypnotherapy approach has made it easier, faster and more enjoyable to progress both my business and myself. I've achieved things I didn't think possible and even more so enjoyed the process of putting myself in new situations and learning from them." ' - Karen Kennedy, Utility Warehouse Discount Club     '"Terry Ingham's coaching session was very valuable to me. I used the Harrison 'Paradox Theory' based Assessment offered by Positive Impact Coaching as a platform for the session. I've seen lots of this type of thing before, but found this to be one of the genuinely very helpful assessments. Why? It showed me some things I already knew about myself, but more interestingly some things that others knew/recognised but perhaps I wasn't aware of. For both, it helped me think hard about myself - both on strengths and weaknesses, and consolidate clearly what I needed to work on. It's a fantastic assessment - I'd recommend using it." ' - - David Torrance, Senior Operational Improvement Consultant, ABB Global Consulting     'I write to say thank you for the brilliant job that you have done in teaching us how to use and interpret the 'Harrison and Stokes' tool in DIAGNOSING ORGANIZATIONAL CULTURE. It was undertaken in a very professional and efficient way, and we now feel comfortable in making use of it and all the tools that you have taught us. We look forward to working with you again in the future. Sincere thanks. ' - Jan van der Walt, Internal Consultant, SASOL Operations Excellence South Africa     '"With reference to the Harrison & Stokes approach to "Diagnosing Organisational Culture" the tool is a great way of identifying where you are now as an organisation and more importantly, agreeing where you need to go. In our initial workshops together our facilitators way of putting over the model made it easy to understand and use - as an individual and as a team, was jargon free and fun."' - Grant Fawcett - Region Senior Consultant, ABB Southern Africa.     '“I found the sessions to be both interesting and informative as well as a catalyst for bouts of introspection and discussion amongst myself and colleagues....." ' - Jim Woo Technical Support Group Manager at sia Abrasives- A Bosch Company       'Our coach's strengths was his ability to develop an easy and friendly rapport with those he works with. His experience enabled him to deal with even the most sensitive of situations whilst maintaining confidentiality and balanced view point. His personal insight and perception of peoples' strengths and weaknesses proved very successful, all this coupled with a sense of humour!' - D W Berridge, Site Manager, German Fine Chemical Business     'My coach is passionate about encouraging people to make the best life they can by overcoming their limiting beliefs. By encouraging me with my fledgling business my goals have all been exceeded, stretching me to get out of my comfort zone.' - Jan Rilatt, YouPlus Coaching, Laceby Lincolnshire     'I was really impressed with the knowledge and skills of our facilitator.' - Zaure Alzhanova, HR Manager BG Kazakhstan     'I found this course very useful as it will help me gain the knowledge of the mentoring process and rapport building. I would recommend it to all people who have to communicate with others.' - Zulfya Muzafarova, Development Project Co-ordinator KPO - BV Kazakhstan     'My coach used a light, reflective state to encourage visualisation of my problem, which was a fear of heights. He helped me to use my mental state more consciously through replaying my experiences and giving me strategies I could try myself. The sessions enabled me to feel strongly empowered with regard to my own state of mind. I have since been up the Leaning Tower Pisa which has always been one of my dreams.' - Sarah Gillingham - Director of Continuing Education & Training Franklin College     ''When work colleagues have entirely different perceptions of events and are critical of me in the future, I will always think about the phone calls (from my coach) and more importantly, how I was able to consider other people's views to get a different perspective on the events'.' - Martin* from Nottingham     ''My coaches overall life experience, high quality of listening, and strong empathy, make him a natural, trustworthy coach. I feel happy that the information I share or entrust with him is fully safe and confidential in his hands. He runs the sessions with a high degree of confidence and care while demonstrating strong understanding of the techniques used, yet always keeping me (the client) at the centre, this makes me feel his coaching is really for me and not just a process'. ' - Olga* from Coventry     ''For me 2005 was an exceptionally difficult year leaving me feeling very emotional and unstable. When I was offered coaching I immediately felt like a lifeline had been given to me. The coaching sessions were conducted in total privacy with my coach's personality and professionalism encouraging me I began to realise that a very personal experience in my childhood was affecting me now due to the emotional low I was feeling. After my first session I came out feeling an enormous sense of relief and experiencing the overwhelming feeling that this person could help me. During my next session my coach showed me a coaching technique which breaks down the emotion in the body. After carrying out the procedure just 3 times I felt as though a massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders, I would not hesitate to recommend coaching to anyone who needs help and support with both professional and/or personal anxieties'.' - Petra* from Yorkshire     '"Coaching for me is just having the right person who can and will listen, someone who will help you work through your own problems and allow you to test your own ideas in a safe environment. My coach does that and can also add some sensible direction and sense checking to my own ideas, when required." ' - Dave* from Newcastle     ''I have been working with my coach both on a one to one basis and as part of a team for almost 12 months now. During what seems a short space of time, I have gone from seeking a way out of the business to not only wanting to stay, but wanting to take on more responsibility and more importantly enjoying it! Why? In a word, 'Confidence'. but sorting it out I thought was easier said than done, but my coach had more techniques and tips he could draw upon than anyone could imagine or seemingly ever remember! Using techniques, to create a positive attitude which gradually overtakes the negative attitude until suddenly it all starts to become second nature and the FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) starts to fade and is replaced with a 'can do' attitude, that I'm sure rubs off onto fellow work colleagues until it almost starts to become infectious'. ' - Mike* from Knottingley West Yorkshire     ''At the age of 17, I was involved in a car accident which left me very anxious about car travel, especially on motorways. This anxiety has increased over the years and has become very problematic when faced with long car journeys. Through the coaching sessions I have had with my coach I have been able to re-programme the thought processes I had developed and associated with car travel and for the first time in 20 years am now a confident, relaxed traveller'. Many Thanks. ' - Martin* from Grimsby     ''My coach has helped me focus on resolving work based relationship issues and has helped me address specific areas of my personal development. He has explored with me my personal goals and targets, the timescales I have set myself, and the options/changes open to me. As a result I am more confident and aiming towards creating a reputation as being organised, thoughtful, and reliable'. ' - Tony* from Winsford Cheshire     'Albemarle Chemicals UK Ltd have used Positive Impact Coaching (PIC) since May 2007 and continues to use them as part of its management development program; primarily for 1:1 coaching support for members of the management team. I have found my relationship with my coach extremely beneficial in helping me achieve my goals both at work & home, my team have all developed as individual team members and collectively as a team we are much stronger. We have grown in confidence, in our abilities and our approach. I am also certain that the challenges we have faced & overcome over the last few years would not have been as successful without the coaching support we received. ' - Adrian Hayman, Site Manager, Albemarle Chemicals UK Ltd.     'Positive Impact Coaching has taken us from a group of disconnected individuals, struggling with exponential change, and reconnected us into the makings of a formidable team. We know what we have to do, now, and we we can make it.' - Provided via Survey Monkey      '“Having used business coaches in the past I thought I knew how effective they could be, but Terry (at Positive Impact Coaching) proved me wrong as his results have far surpassed those of my previous experiences”. Basic coaching has worked to provide me with a compass for development, identification of strengths and weaknesses and the next steps to business growth - all very important and useful elements - but Terry's additional [skill/service] of hypnotherapy at the end of each session gave me the tools to tackle any negativity I might felt at facing new situations and challenges. Put very simply this combined coaching/hypnotherapy approach has made it easier, faster and more enjoyable to progress both my business and myself. I've achieved things I didn't think possible and even more so enjoyed the process of putting myself in new situations and learning from them." ' - Karen Kennedy, Utility Warehouse Discount Club     '"Terry Ingham's coaching session was very valuable to me. I used the Harrison 'Paradox Theory' based Assessment offered by Positive Impact Coaching as a platform for the session. I've seen lots of this type of thing before, but found this to be one of the genuinely very helpful assessments. Why? It showed me some things I already knew about myself, but more interestingly some things that others knew/recognised but perhaps I wasn't aware of. For both, it helped me think hard about myself - both on strengths and weaknesses, and consolidate clearly what I needed to work on. It's a fantastic assessment - I'd recommend using it." ' - - David Torrance, Senior Operational Improvement Consultant, ABB Global Consulting     'I write to say thank you for the brilliant job that you have done in teaching us how to use and interpret the 'Harrison and Stokes' tool in DIAGNOSING ORGANIZATIONAL CULTURE. It was undertaken in a very professional and efficient way, and we now feel comfortable in making use of it and all the tools that you have taught us. We look forward to working with you again in the future. Sincere thanks. ' - Jan van der Walt, Internal Consultant, SASOL Operations Excellence South Africa     '"With reference to the Harrison & Stokes approach to "Diagnosing Organisational Culture" the tool is a great way of identifying where you are now as an organisation and more importantly, agreeing where you need to go. In our initial workshops together our facilitators way of putting over the model made it easy to understand and use - as an individual and as a team, was jargon free and fun."' - Grant Fawcett - Region Senior Consultant, ABB Southern Africa.     '“I found the sessions to be both interesting and informative as well as a catalyst for bouts of introspection and discussion amongst myself and colleagues....." ' - Jim Woo Technical Support Group Manager at sia Abrasives- A Bosch Company